While misery does love company, some of our pain just appreciates understanding.

Hey there! Hope all is well. Today I want to hang out and talk about the desire to have someone that shares your pain. It’s not about wanting them to be in agony just like you, but rather that feeling of relief that comes with knowing you are not alone.

Unfortunately, some very evil and miserable people want you to be the same way. Whatever isn’t going right or working out for them, they wish that upon you. Unlike those nefarious individuals, some of us want to know that there is a human body that we can lean on for encouragement and understanding. We want someone we can call or meet up with to vent about our problems without judgment because they’ve experienced something similar. Some individuals share your same story and will still run and tell that, but you can also find trustworthy people that will stand with you and lift you.

There is a peace that comes when you discover that there is a person that can empathize with you. Whether that’s a girlfriend that relates to the lows you sometimes have in a marriage or a parent that can calm you when you’re stressing about your troubled teen; they’ve been there, they get it. No, the problem does not disappear (not instantly anyway), but you have more endurance dealing with it because a way of release is available.

One day I was talking to someone and shared my feelings about a situation in my marriage that bothers me to this day. I’ve expressed this to my husband before, so I’m not putting out anything that he doesn’t already know. It’s an area where we still need growth, yup after ALL of these years we are still trying to figure some things out. Of course, like most people that have the opportunity to hear our truth, she was in shock. She couldn’t believe what she was hearing. After revealing to me that it didn’t appear as if that particular thing was an issue for us, she admitted that she had a similar situation in her previous love connection. She was so happy to hear that it was something that can occur with any union, and she stressed how much my sharing had helped her. During that relationship, she wished she had known that others were dealing with the same issues. However, she vowed to make sure her next opportunity would be different because of what she had learned through our conversation.

It can be scary to be vulnerable about some of your most intimate moments. Also remember, you have to be careful about who you’re sharing them with. However, I do recommend that you are transparent and let others know there won’t always be rainbows in the sky. There will be rain and thunderstorms that come in your life that others may not see. I believe it’s helpful and necessary to share that pain in hopes that somebody else will be able to withstand their troubles. Even the bible states in 1 Thessalonians 5:11 in the New International Version, “Encourage one another and build each other up.” By divulging some of your tough moments, your story could uplift the next person who deals with the same thing.

In short, I’ll leave you with this. Use wisdom when you are disclosing personal information about yourself, your significant other, or your family. You don’t want to expose yourself in a way that is hurtful to you or the party(ies) involved. However, you do want others to see that there is still a bright side while going through and after dealing with agony. In most cases, you will survive the pain, and that testimony will have an even more significant impact.

EITHER THIS POST WAS HELPFUL TO YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW COULD BENEFIT FROM IT. IF SO, CLICK THE MORE BUTTON BELOW AND SHARE THIS POST TO YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA PAGE(S). PLEASE BRING SOMEONE TO “HANG OUT” AND JOIN THE CONVERSATION WITH US. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!

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