Been there, done that!
Hey there! Hope all is well. Today as we hang out, I would like to encourage the working moms. I know what it’s like to get up early to make sure the kids are awake, groomed, dressed, fed, and then get them off to daycare or school and still make it to work on time. It’s not a simple task, but we get the job done. Others may think it looks easy, but I know what you are going through.
Dealing With Mom Guilt
For many years, I longed to be a stay-at-home mom. It hurt me to put my sons on the bus and have to tell them no to after school activities because I couldn’t get them there and back. Like a lot of moms, I did not prepare to have children. There wasn’t a big stash of money saved up to allow me to stay home with them.
The Cause and the Effect
I started a Corporate America job when my twins were babies, so I’d set the atmosphere of being a working mom early. A short time after being at that job, I thought I’d be able to leave and still have the opportunity to be more hands-on with my children as they grew up. Unfortunately, like most, I lived above my means. Therefore, I needed to continue working to help pay for my lifestyle.
You Have the Power to Change Your Situation
You do not have to proceed down this same path if you are ready for something different. Because I’ve had this experience, I can tell you precisely what you need to change directions a lot quicker than I did. If you’re a mom with younger kids, now is the time to start preparing for a change. I know it may seem unreachable for a single woman to become a stay-at-home mom, but it’s possible. You will more likely have to put in a lot more work because you are the sole provider, but it can happen. I know several single moms who do not work a typical 9 to 5 job and do well for themselves and their children.
Create the Life You Want
As for me, I have a husband who continues to work and provide for us, which allows me to create a lifestyle that I’d prefer now. Once I made a conscious decision to put all of my efforts into paying off the debt we’d accumulated over the years, my sons were well past the growing stages. However, that doesn’t have to be your story. Now is the time to get your things in order.
Change and Sacrifice is Necessary
Change your usual way of living, sell what you can, and downsize your house if staying home with your children is a priority. Once you’ve reached your goal, there are different ways of generating income. Being home and crafting your schedule the way you want will allow you to be more creative. Many moms have established businesses while being at home with their children. That enables them to continue to bring in money, create the hours they want, and be available for their children and activities.
Are you willing to sacrifice in your current state so that you can enjoy later?
Until next time, I’ll leave you with this. Press through your current situation. Do the best that you can and don’t beat yourself up about not being there for everything. If you want to change your lifestyle for you and your children, the time to start is now. I challenge you to write down your plan today and how you will execute it. Now, go forth and be great!! I wish you all the best on your new journey.
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Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I want to become a stay at home mom but like you, my husband and I have been spending on more things which have forced me to stick around a little longer for that one bonus or lottery ticket that will end all of our toils. I personally have taken a step back mentally and have shifted my focus towards being a mom and wife first before being employee 152XXXXX in a multinational organization… it’s true what they say, if you die today, your company will have you replaced in a week. Can you please share more of how you were able to transition?
Exactly! Thank goodness my replacement came after I left and not because I died. Whew!
It was a process for many, many years. My husband and I worked on becoming debt free, then we paid off the house. Those moves allowed me the opportunity to transition to being at home, so I could focus on doing my own thing.
Please read more about our journey in these two blog posts:
Thanks so much for the engagement! I appreciate it!