Hey there! Hope all is well. As we hang out today, I want to talk to you about how you sometimes have to pray and stay in marriage until things get better.
NO, I am not telling you to stay with someone abusing you in ANY way, constantly cheating on you, or mistreating you. I am speaking on other repeated issues, endless frustrations, annoyances, and irritations. You know, those little things that keep happening that you believe will never change.
When my late grandmother was asked how she managed to be married for so many years, she would sometimes respond with, “Pray and stay.” She’d tell you that times got so bad where she didn’t know any other thing to do but pray about the situation and stay with her husband.
I had no expectations for a perfect marriage, but I never expected to be citing Bigmama’s words regarding mine. I can’t say that our problems are so terrible that I need to walk away, but man, I tell you, they make me second guess those ‘I DOs’ sometimes! That’s when I have to remember Bigmama’s “Pray and Stay!” As my First Lady puts it, “Everybody’s much is much to them.” What you may think is not a big deal can be a lot to me and vice versa.
People see surprise trips and cool birthday gifts that I sometimes post on social media, but they don’t see everything. Of course, I’m not going to show everything. While I do feel that sharing the bad times are necessary, everybody can’t handle your truths. Therefore, I will talk at situations and attempt to get the message out that my marriage is not perfect without getting into details. However, not sharing does not change reality.
Until next time, I’ll leave you with this. My grandparents were married for 63 years before they passed away in the same year. Things weren’t always great for them, but because Bigmama chose to use an old school method she called ‘pray and stay,’ they had a long-lasting, successful marriage that I still admire to this day. I am a firm believer in prayer, so I use this same style from time to time. However, for those that don’t believe in God or some higher power that you pray to, there are many other ways to help you succeed in marriage. I urge you today to find what works for you. Go to counseling, talk with an unbiased family member or a friend, or read a book about relationships. Marriage is a great thing, and it can work if you are willing to do the work to maintain it.
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