Hey there! Hope all is well. Let’s jump right into today’s topic. Your kids might like you until your direction is the opposite of what they would like!
As long as you tell them what they want to hear, it’s all good. As soon as you say something they don’t like, you are the enemy. The amount of time these ill-feelings last will vary. It depends on the severity of the situation. If you don’t allow your child to hang with someone for one evening, they may be upset with you until the next day. If you shut them down from dating someone you’re not comfortable with or keep them from participating in sports, even for a valid reason, they may resent you for a while.
The reactions and time of agitation will also depend on the individual. While some can handle critique and punishment with ease, others take things a lot more personally. I have had experience with this, with my children all being unique. Each one of them has a different tolerance level. Some can handle discipline better than others, but all of them still have distinct feelings. Getting specific feedback is relatively common with most families that have multiple children. I honestly wish I had recognized the differences much earlier in my sons. With this realization, I would have exercised different methods with each one of them according to their level of sensitivity. However, regardless of your style, you will most likely be faced with some form of pushback.
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You can choose not to spank or raise your voice, but I disagree with no discipline at all. I made a similar post about this subject matter, and I firmly believe that if you’re more focused on trying to be your kid’s friend, that will backfire on you. Discipline the best and safest way you know to do, but ask for assistance and read books if you’re unsure.
Until next time, I’ll leave you with this! Take my word and train your child to be an upstanding individual that respects you and others and has integrity. You may have to go through a period where they “say” they don’t like you and they actually treat you like you mean nothing to them, but I believe it is a season that will pass. Have you experienced this stage with your child or know someone that has overcome it?