After being married for almost nineteen years, I have learned many things that I believe would have helped me before marriage. Therefore, I want to be sure to relay the message to anyone else just getting started.
Have you ever heard couples saying “When you know you know” as a response to how they knew they were in love? How about “life is too short” as a reason for tying the knot abruptly?
These are just a few (of many) comments associated with ‘marriage’ because let’s face it, perfection in relationships is something only Hollywood can create.
I can’t say that our problems are so terrible that I need to walk away, but man, I tell you, they make me second guess those ‘I DOs’ sometimes! That’s when I have to remember Bigmama’s “Pray and Stay!”
What’s the first thing we think would make our marriage better? OUR SPOUSE! We say that they need to do this or that, right? Why do we always believe changes are required from our partner to make our relationship more enjoyable?
We have disagreed on many things that caused us both to be highly frustrated. Neither of us has ever called the other out of their name nor been violent. However, there have been some very heated discussions to the point that I was second-guessing our decision to marry.
You know how those roller coasters can be, the ride starts out smooth and straight, kind of like that first couple of months and first year of marriage. Heck, I’ll even say maybe the first couple of years.